Homework:  Using the following example, write down compliments that you might realistically make in the relationship, including 1) Direct compliment, 2) an indirect compliment, 3) Self-compliments (what kind you might hear from the client and how you might respond), 4) Using Client Reactions, and 5) Downplay/rejection (complimenting a client who is likely not to believe you, thus, the way you would compliment the client). The example:  You are working with a 15 year old girl, Donna, who has been kicked out of her house because she fights with her mother all the time.  She is living in foster care but would like to live with her grandmother in another state.  She has been doing okay in school with B/C grades and staying out of trouble, but she gets in trouble in the foster home because of her quick temper and talking back to the foster mother.  The grandmother is interested in custody but not sure she can provide the supervision Donna needs. (Do this on a separate page)

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Self-compliments

How did you know it was a good idea to do that?

 Using client reactions

Client:  I have a really good relationship with my grandmother

Interviewer:  How do you manage to keep such a good relationship with your grandmother?

Client:  I don't get along with my foster mother but I love my grandmother

Interviewer:  I'm glad you have someone significant in your life you get along with.  It takes strength to do that.

Client: Well, my grandmother gets along with everyone.  It's nothing I do.  (downplaying/rejecting your compliment).

Interviewer: You seem to be able to remain calm and compliant t when your grandmother asks you to do things.  What is different in this relationship that makes you willing to do that?

Alternative:  What makes you know it is important to maintain this relationship with your grandmother?